Have you ever jumped into something and once you committed
thought “oh crap, what have I gotten myself into?"At that point you know that
you have two options: 1) quit 2) plow through your fear.
That’s where I was last month with Beachbody. Now some of
you may be thinking- ah Tara, it’s a little early on to get cold feet (just two
months in)- but no, not really. Becoming a Beachbody coach was an even bigger
risk than becoming a Weight Watchers leader- why? The big fat “R” word-
rejection. In the Weight Watchers meetings, while people would come and go, for
the most part I had a captive and engaged audience. Not the case with
Beachbody, I have to work for it.
Perfectionists and people pleasers don’t do well in the land
of potential failure and rejection. I have always wanted people to like me, to
show me some level of approval. As I mature and as I remember that I’m a child
of God and he’s really the only one that I need to be pleasing, the need to
be liked has decreased, but it’s still there. It creeps up on me every once in
a while.
I just got off of an incredible three hour Beachbody
webinar. One of the things that they talked about is that not everyone is going
to support your journey and you have to be OK with that. On the flip side, there will be
champions who surface who you didn’t even expect. This was a very important
reminder to me. Haters gonna hate, right?!? As long as you love what you’re
doing, why should their opinion even matter?
The biggest battle I’m fighting right now is getting over
the NO. This one is seriously a character builder. I know that a year from
now I’m going to be blown away by how much I’ve grown by being willing to put
myself out there. You don’t get if you don’t ask. But the asking, it can be so
scary. Maybe that all comes back to me translating a NO into people not
liking me. I know that to succeed in running this business I need to get past
this. So as I found myself at a crossroads last month, quit and cower or plow through
my fear, I chose to plow through. How could I not when I wear the same ring
each day that reads-faith over fear?
I am confident that I am exactly where God wants me to me.
That he has set me up for this moment. That everything I’ve learnt and every
person I’ve come into contact with is spilling over into this opportunity. It’s
been a long time since I’ve been so excited about something!
I don’t have to be the shrinking violet. The person who
works behind the scenes who’s afraid to speak up. Always the back-up singer,
never the lead. That was my choice, nobody put me in those roles but me. And now it’s my choice to shine. To lead. To
follow my calling. To work my ass off. To blow my goals out of the water.
Because I can. I control my choices. I control my actions and reactions. I
choose to be well. I choose to help others to be well. I chose to plow through,
one plodding step at a time. Because dammit, I have never EVER felt better and
I want people to have a chance to achieve their goals and to pursue what they
once thought impossible.
I’m throwing some socks on these cold feet until they’re
nice and toasty. I’m not going to wait to do something until everything is
lined up in perfect order. I’m just going to do and I’m going to work. Have you ever looked at a time in your life when you went
through tremendous spiritual or personal transformation? And you can pinpoint exactly what you were doing and what transpired to get you to that moment? I know that
is what 2016 is going to be for me. What do you want to do and what or who is
stopping you?
Go back to school. Look for a new job. Change careers
altogether. Pursue a new friendship. Walk away from an unhealthy relationship.
Start a wellness plan. Try a new hobby.
Fear is not a real emotion. It’s something that we create
based on our current perception of our reality. Some people may look at a snake
and be terrified. Some people love snakes. It’s the same snake. It’s our
thoughts that change. It’s our thoughts that need to change for us to move forward.
For the past two months, I’ve been operating in a steady
state of discomfort. I have a little flutter in my belly and I know that
flutter leads to growth and change.
Decide. Commit. Succeed. Be all in, don’t be a dabbler. Tomorrow
is not promised.
It starts with the decision to change. It continues when you
put yourself out there. When you share your commitment and ask others to hold
you accountable. Surprise yourself with your success. Knock your own freaking
socks off!
